He's Just Not That Into Me?
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| Sun, 06-07-2009 - 7:36pm |
Hello everyone, my name's Kat and I'm new to this board.
I've been in long relationships in the past, I'm new to dating. Usually when I meet someone, I'm the one who decides whether or not the relationship starts. When I go out, I usually meet guys and am the one who doesn't call them back.
Well, last night I went out with my girlfriends and for once met a really interesting and it was the first time I really had fun with one and felt like we clicked. We danced all night, and we barely drank anything because we were both too enamered with each other to do anything but dance. We both were exhausted, but never left each other's side. I had the best time, laughed almost the whole night, and felt completely different than I usually do when I meet guys when we go out.
Well, we ended up talking all night, he came over to the hotel room but we just talked out on the balcony. We talked about what professions we're in, what interests us, etc etc. I felt a really strong connection and I can't stress enough how rare this is for me. We stayed up until 4 am, and then he went to leave. We'd already exchanged numbers earlier in the evening, so it felt like we already got passed that first step. He went to leave, reached out to hugged me and kissed me on the cheek.
I was bubbly, infatuated and completely swept off my feet. Again, abnormal for me. I talked about him all night to my friend and eventually went to bed. When he left, I thought the mutual concensus was that we were going to talk today.
So it's today, and it's 7pm and neither of us have called each other. I hung around downtown (i was about 40 minutes from my house) thinking maybe we'd catch up. As the day went by, I started to feel the sting of perhaps this wasn't what I thought it was, and perhaps it WASNT mutual despite what happened last night.
I couldn't stand it anymore, and sent him a text. He responded with "Who is this?". I knew we had exchanged numbers early in the evening and he even called my phone to ensure we had the right ones. When I responded confused and told him who I was he said "Oh, this isn't the number I had for you". We texted a few times but then he stopped.
I feel like a crazy person for actually doing this this time. I'm usually the one on the other side. I feel ashamed, and sheepish. It feels like I'm getting what I deserve for playing with other people's hearts.
I told myself that he was busy, maybe got caught up in something (he was apparently a teacher and coached volleyball, and he was going to have a game today).
Do I sound like a crazy person? Am I making excuses to make myself feel better? Is this just a classic "He's just not that into you" situation? I've never really been in this situation, and I feel embarressed for thinking he and I would be talking right now.
Any advice would be amazing! Thank you!

Welcome to this board. I'm wondering if you got your user name from Zorba the Greek. Have you seen the movie? He talked about the whole catastrophe, as if it were something wonderful. At least that's what I remember, but it's been a long time. Must ask my ex about that one--he's know.
Anyway, to your question:
You wanted to know if the guy you met and felt this way about:
"I was bubbly, infatuated and completely swept off my feet. Again, abnormal for me. I talked about him all night to my friend and eventually went to bed. When he left, I thought the mutual concensus was that we were going to talk today."
...is maybe not into you. You both had a rollicking good time and then basically blahhhhhhhhhhhhhh from him. Nottin'.
And the truth is who knows. Has he called yet? How many times have you had the good time and in the morning it all fades away into, well, a big yawn or else it just doesn't seem so great the next day. You tried, you reached out to him and that's about all you can do for now.