not sure how to play this game..

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Registered: 08-05-2005
not sure how to play this game..
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Tue, 06-09-2009 - 8:12pm
i met this guy i really, really, really liked, we went out and had an amazing time.. ended up sleeping together on the first date. everything was great, including the sex. never really slept with someone on first date before, so wasn't sure if it meant afterward he'd think i was a slut and never call, or what... i was a little uncertain, so anyway, he called and asked me out again. he mentioned that it was "crazy" what transpired between us and said he wanted to take next date slower. good sign, no? so, last date i met him in his neighborhood, which is how we ended up back at his place. this time, what do you think i should do? meet him in MY neighborhood, and not sleep with him, or should we meet some place neutral so we don't even have to make the decision whether or not to sleep together because we'd both have to find our way back to our respective homes? or, on the other hand, since everything was so good, SHOULD we not worry about it and still allow sexual encounters (though I think both of us wants more than just sex...)?
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 4:06pm
I don't think it matters where you meet because you can still make the decision not to have sex until you get to know each other better. It's not like you "just ended up" in his apartment--you had to make a conscious decision to go there. Since he already said he wants to take it slower, I think that's a hint that he wants to see if there is a relationship and not just having sex, so that's good.
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 9:32pm

Or you could do some nice outdoor activity that keeps you moving for a few hours.

Not kidding.