in need of some advice

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Registered: 08-30-2006
in need of some advice
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Mon, 06-15-2009 - 6:57pm
I'm in need of some advice, I'm a police officer in the patrol division of my department and in the area that i patrol there are several parks where an abundance of women go to walk, i was wondering if any of you wonderful ladies could help me out with how to approach one of these women.
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Mon, 06-15-2009 - 9:23pm

Welcome to this board atxcop! Hope you feel comfortable here.

OK, here goes:

I'm trying to picture myself as one of these running women. First thing that comes to mind is are you up for meeting just any one of them or someone in particular.

It's been my dream these long months to meet someone in person (IRL) and so this sounds refreshing, as long as the *stalker* aspect isn't present. With this in mind, I'd say, hang around on occasion, be friendly, as if you're looking out for these women. Then eventually, perhaps you can move to talk.

I wouldn't rush it--I'd try to avoid an agenda. Btw, have you ever seen the movie "The Tao of Steve?" Look it up and let me know what you think. It's all about getting what you want by not wanting it.

Oh, women are smart. If they get the idea you're up for simply anyone there, it could be a turn off and a big one.

Good luck. Let us know how it goes!

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Registered: 06-05-2008
Tue, 06-16-2009 - 8:23pm

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Registered: 12-27-2001
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 9:51pm

Of course, I'm a woman and know nottin' about picking up women.

On the other hand, I feel free to express my opinion from the woman's POV. It's an individual thing, this meeting and greeting. If a police officer were to raise his hand to stop me, for example, I'd panic, at least for a few seconds.

I guess I'd tread lightly here for several reasons. First of all, you're in uniform because you're working, not shmoozing with *lady* runners. And second, many runners take their workouts seriously and don't want to be bothered in mid-stride. No matter how saavy Your Hotness, and even if you're Monsieur Charmant.

Now, I do agree that some women like a strong man--someone who knows what he wants. Many of us are tired of the wishy-washy guys we correspond with online. True.

Still, subtle speaks well, very well, and you can always crank it up a bit once you've got her smiling. Laughing is even better.

You reporting back?

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Registered: 06-23-2009
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 7:36pm

in a word, no, it is totally inappropriate for you to approach any female in your uniform.

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Registered: 07-10-2002
Fri, 07-03-2009 - 2:18am

Man, that is totally inappropriate, creepy and confusing for you to be hitting on women while you are on duty.