Wateringholes and Baggage Reclaim
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| Wed, 06-24-2009 - 7:18pm |
Having trouble breaking away from a guy who keeps on revisiting the ole watering hole? That’s you, the water hole. (Hey, don’t get offended. I’ve been revisited on many many occasions, but that’s another story.) The watering hole is the place where he gets his ego stroked and stoked.
I’ve pasted a few examples from the baggagereclaim.com site to give you the flavor. This woman is making a career of discussing the men in our lives who are unworthy of our attention (a tactful way of saying it). Read on. She says it better than I.
Defining A**clowns: Men you shouldn’t want to date - Part One
The term ‘a**clown’ is one I’ve been using for a few years and when it’s come to describing my exes, it fits them all like a beautiful, big, enveloping glove. I have since used it as a blanket term for inappropriate men but I’m going to explain the term a bit more and there is a reason – in my experience of writing about dating and relationships and reading the thousands of emails from women who want me to decipher their situation, we love to believe that our guy is different.
You only have to look at the number of women with emotionally unavailable men (Mr Unavailable’s) and the quintessential cheater with a wife or a girlfriend in the background to know that there is a hell of a lot of hoping going on out there.
Can you stay friends with Mr Unavailable’s & A**clowns after you break up?- Part One
Over the past few days (and many times before) there has been a lot of talk in the comments about staying friends with your ex, and more importantly, whether you can stay friends with a Mr Unavailable or a**clown after you’ve broken up.
I have written on several occasions about being friend’s with your ex for example in can’t we just be friends, and for me it’s like this:
If you are no longer emotionally attached to your ex and have gotten over him and moved on, let’s say 6 months or a year down the line, go ahead and knock yourself out. That is of course if he actually has qualities tha t make him worthy of actually being your friend.
If you want, need, or expect anything from your ex, even if you don’t express it or acknowledge it, you have ulterior motives for wanting to be his friend.
*How do I make a link to the site, does anyone out there know? Thanks.
Edited 6/24/2009 9:40 pm ET by cl-petulia777
Edited 6/24/2009 9:46 pm ET by cl-petulia777
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