He loves me....not??

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Registered: 07-06-2009
He loves me....not??
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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 1:41am

I will try to keep this short.


I was dating Brian for over a year when he decided he just wanted to be friends....I am done crying over him...and now we really are friends.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 4:31pm
You could start mentioning to your GFs in the group that you & Brian are just friends and you are actively looking for someone to date. Or you could expand your social network. I think that even if you get the word out, it will be awkward for you to be trying to get to know other guys while Brian is sitting there looking at you (and probably telling the guy that you are still dating him). Sounds like this guy wants to have his cake & eat it too.
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 8:43am

My first thought was why did you name your post "He loves me...not?" Maybe it was just playful. But, I've gotta say, this guy's intentions are anything BUT playful. I just posted about what is in essence The Unavailables, guys who seem "ready" and they aren't.

Boy Brian (and I use *boy* in a purposeful way) and scores of others like him are selfish and emotionally immature. I've had it with these guys and frankly, so should you have had it. He wasn't there for you and yet you consider him important, a friend you won't loosen your hold on, due to what? History?

Your history speaks for itself. I've got a friend like Brian; the big difference is that I don't have the feelings for him he seems to have for me. That plus his g.f. don't stop him from making moves on me.

These guys are selfish. And you need to get selfish too, protect yourself and go for what you want. And need. The sooner, honey, the better. Let him fend for himself a while.

You might also trying fishing from another pond, one that doesn't contain all your posse. The water will be fresh and clean.