Yet another question

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Yet another question
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Mon, 07-13-2009 - 11:17pm

Because all of my relationships have been dysfunctional (guys moving in for the kill ASAP, then somehow go nuts on me...), I am not sure how to handle what I think might be a "nice guy".

So in my elderly years, I have some basic dating questions:

1. He asked me out on-line, we met, he asked me out for a second date on the first one. We spent the day together yesterday, he didn't ask me out again, but has e-mailed me twice today...is this a good sign?

2. How often do normal guys want to date in the course of a week? (Remember, I am used to guys who come on strong and want to see me 3x a week or so, call all the time, text all the time)

3. How do you know if the guy is only seeing you or is playing the field or do you flat out ask? (I ask because I am usually the LAST to know about this...)

4. How do I act? Do I call to say "hi"? I get the feeling he's not a phone talker, since the only time he spoke to me on the phone was really quick. Do I let him do all the work at this point? What point can I ask out, call, etc?

I feel like such a dork, but I want to do the right thing here.

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Tue, 07-14-2009 - 1:37am

My own take on things after lots of trial and error:


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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 07-14-2009 - 9:31am
Thanks Sheri! I can't believe I have to ask these questions. Makes me realize the crazy men I have been involved with over the year. My experience has been " intensely coupled" from the first date (this goes back to college boyfriends and even my ex-husband) so if the guy isn't falling all over me from the get-go I assume he doesn't like me. It's been hard for me to realize that that kind of behavior is NOT good!