Dating multiples...

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Dating multiples...
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Tue, 07-14-2009 - 9:28pm

I have a question...why is it bad to date more than one guy at a time? For instance, I went out with a guy on Friday, then Sunday, he didn't ask for another date. He sent me a couple of emails yesterday, but nothing today. I have no idea if I will ever hear from this guy again.

Tomorrow I have a date with another guy. Two others on-line have asked to meet.

So, tell me, do I owe something to the first guy? I mean, he hasn't asked me out again, so should I be waiting by the proverbial phone for him to decide what he wants to do and forgo others who might be interested?

I've seen this debate on this site and I am mystified as to why we women have to sit around and wait for HIM to decide if he wants to go out with us again before WE decide if we are going to move on to the next guy. If HE doesn't want us, what are we waiting for? It's 2009 for goodness sake!

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 6:26am

Who says it's bad? In fact, most of the advice I see on this board is to date more than one, that way you don't become so focused on one guy. Now, I think when sex enters the picture, that's a whole other thing. And then there's "Let's be exclusive to see if this will develop into something" and you stop dating others.

So no, don't wait by the phone. You don't owe any sort of loyalty to the first guy. He could be dating others as well.

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Registered: 03-18-2009
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 10:55am
I say go for it as long as there is no commitment or "exclusivity" with any one of these guys.
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 11:25am
You owe him NOTHING. End of story. Go forth and date, Babe.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 07-15-2009 - 1:15pm
And since he never called back, that I'll do.
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Registered: 10-02-2001
Tue, 07-21-2009 - 2:37am

Why shouldn't you date multiple people? In my opinion, until both parties agree to enter into a mutually exclusive relationship, you're a free agent.