Would This Relationship Work?

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Would This Relationship Work?
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Tue, 07-21-2009 - 10:02pm

Okay, first, I never really had a boyfriend before, because I was never really interested in it. Growing up is complicated enough without having to deal with relationship troubles. So the guys that did ask me out, I gently turned down by effectively getting them together with my friends (this has happened three times). I'm not sure why though. It was either that I didn't feel like I 'liked' them, or I was just too nervous about getting into a relationship, which makes me think I have some sort of a problem with these kinds of things, haha.

Currently, there's this guy that likes me (I showed interest in him at first, but now it's faded). And he asked me out, but I'm sort of postponing it for a while (partially because I'm really busy lately). And he's nice, and we're interested in the same things, like filmmaking and theatre and stuff. But the problem is, I don't think he's really that funny, or at all funny.

But he laughs at things I say, which is nice. I always like making people laugh, but I also really enjoy laughing myself. I hadn't really thought about it for a relationship, but making me laugh is probably at or near the top of my list. Thinking this over even more, pretty much every guy I've liked in the past has always been funny to me. And I actually get kind of bored talking to this guy.

So, does this sound like a relationship that would last? Should I go for it? Will he become more interesting to me?

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Wed, 07-22-2009 - 12:18pm
You could go out on some more dates with him and see if you start to like him more. But honestly, I feel like you shouldn't force yourself to like someone. I did that last year with a guy and ended up in a relationship with him. But it was totally forced on my end and when we broke up, I wasn't even sad about not seeing him anymore. We were just together because of loneliness. Was a total waste of time. Which could happen to you....who knows.
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Wed, 07-22-2009 - 4:01pm
Give it a shot, go out and see what happens. If things don't get any better then stop seeing him. It doesn't sound very promising from what you have said, but he may surprise you.
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Thu, 07-23-2009 - 10:50am
Alright, thank you very much for your help!