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| Wed, 07-22-2009 - 8:53pm |
Hi all
I have been dating this man for about 5 months. I enjoy going out with him, I am attracted to him to an extent, but I don't have strong feelings for him. Every so often I get vibes from him that imply he is more "into me" than I am "into him."
Well anyway, this led me to have a conversation with him. I told him how I felt and where I stand. I told him what I had mentioned in the first paragraph above, along with me not wanting anything serious, and that I can see myself dating other men in the future. He suprised me by implying that his feelings were similar to mine. He may want something serious in the future, but he is not at that point.
So we are still dating, going out, having fun, and creating memories. However, I don't see our relationship blossoming into anything more. I try to keep an open mind b/c we do like each other and I enjoy talking to him every day and seeing him on weekends, but realistically speaking, he's not my ideal guy.
We also sometimes refer to each other as friends, while other times we refer to each other as boyfriend/girlfriend.
Is this OK? Should we have more sturdy grounds since we've been dating for a # of months already? What are your opinions?

I think that if you are enjoying his company and there's no misleading going on (which it sounds like there isn't), and (most importantly) he's not preventing you from keeping your eyes open for someone who might be a better match, then why not enjoy yourself?
Sheri
I understand what you are saying, and I agree.
However, I wasn't sure if it was appropriate being involved with someone when my deepest instinct tells me it's not going to end "happily ever after."
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