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Registered: 07-22-2008
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Mon, 08-03-2009 - 9:05am

OK. So last week I was upset because the guy I was seeing for a few months wasn't calling. Now I have the opposite problem.


Nearly 2 years ago I met a nice guy that works at once of my favorite places to get Spanish food. We saw each other every time I went there and he always asked my "cousin" if I was with him (the guy is not my real cousin) and could he get my number. The guy speaks only Spanish and at the time I did not know much Spanish.

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 1:23pm
I've dated a lot of foreign guys and I always have to be very very straightforward with them. I know you have told him that you don't want him as a boyfriend but have you told him to not text or call as much? Can you tell him that American girls are not used to guys who are just friends calling and texting so much? It's amazing how fast foreign guys can move, lol. I really like that about them but it often requires that you tell them "don't move so fast!"
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Mon, 08-03-2009 - 1:41pm
You are exactly right! It is endearing and annoying at the same time. I did tell him I can not text so much each day. He called this morning and I did not respond. He then only texted me just now- 6 hours later- so I believe that he may be listening to my request. And, if I do not answer every time - he's not becoming obsessive about it....so so far so good. I really do believe its cultural. Foreign men are so sexy with those accents...hehe
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Mon, 08-03-2009 - 1:52pm
spoke too soon...he texted me something about me having him already. I told him that we cant talk anymore if he is going to keep talking like that because he is not my boyfriend. We dont even know each other yet and he needs to take it more slow. I think he got the message cuz he said...well it doesnt translate well- but basically he agreed to do what I ask. hehe
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 4:28am

I'm just giving my two cents here:

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Registered: 07-22-2008
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 3:53pm
You hit the nail on the head! That is EXACTLY my issue. I like to wonder when is he going to call...why didn't he answer my text...once in awhile. It keeps things interesting. I told him I don't like guys to call me so much and he has not called since. I said to text less and he has and when I texted him, he took like an hour to answer...so I think he got the point! haha
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Registered: 07-17-2009
Fri, 08-07-2009 - 12:02pm
See, lol. All he needs is to be told word for word exactly what you want and some time to practice what you are preaching. Hopefully he gets better with time.