i met a guy online...

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Registered: 11-30-2006
i met a guy online...
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 8:07pm

so i met this guy online about a month ago. we've seen each other 4 times now and had sex on the third date. now i can't seem to read this guy. i know i shouldn't have had sex with him until we were further along but it is what it is. so now i can't tell if he likes me or if he just wants to sleep with me. he knows my history and how i've been hurt like this before.


he texts me all the time and asks me out and stuff but i just don't know if it's my own paranoia that's acting up or if he just really can't be trusted. the first time we met was on a sunday after he had come back from LA. two weeks after that he went to vegas then LA. and now he's telling me he's going to LA again this weekend but he wants to see me. part of me thinks he's just in it for the sex. another part of me thinks differently. he says he's going for his parents anniversary. but the last time he came back from LA he was telling me how girls in LA are different from girls in the bay area and how he's thinking of going there half time. maybe that answers my own question...

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 12:37pm
Why would he tell you that girls are different in LA? Did he mean that he likes the women there better and that's why he's thinking of moving there? It does sound like he likes you if he's trying to keep in touch with you. He IS allowed to date other women though if you two aren't exclusive. So it's not like he's being shady if he's dating women in LA. But you do deserve to know if he's dating and sleeping with other women. I've asked men I'm sleeping with if they're sleeping with other women too and they haven't had a problem with me asking.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 7:31pm

yeah i guess i need to ask if he's sleeping with other women. that i do have a right to know. and yes, he has blatantly said that he thinks women in LA are more the settling down type and so on and so forth. that's where he's originally from, as am i.

so he texted last night wanting to meet up tomorrow, but i have plans so i'm not able to. he said he wants to meet up when he gets back then and that "he won't be in LA too long." i guess i've just been hurt one too many times in the past and have trust issues. i know we are not exclusive and he has a right to do whatever he likes, as do i. it's just hard at this stage in the game....