Need advice desperately

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Registered: 08-06-2009
Need advice desperately
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Thu, 08-06-2009 - 4:57am
Okay so I met this guy things seemed to be going well. He was very attentive calling/texting frequently and then I went out of town. While I was gone one of his dearest friends passed away suddenly with no warning. Communication has been slow since. I have sent a text with no reply am waiting a week and texting again. What is the best way to let him know that I am still interested without being pushy and understanding how devastated he must be. I really do not know what to do and could use some help. BTW if relevant we are both in our 30's and I have been out of the dating scene for awhile. I need some honest advice what do I do????
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 8:16am
I think you've already shown you were still interested by sending a text. If you get no reply, you could *consider* calling and leaving a message if necessary. After that, I would just let him get back in touch. If you haven't been seeing each other all that long, he may not want to share his grieving feelings with you at this point, KWIM? It could be that everything is just fine between you and he will get back in touch with you when he's ready.
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Registered: 07-17-2009
Fri, 08-07-2009 - 12:17pm
I would call and leave a voicemail. That way you know you tried two different modes of communication. One of them will have to have made it to him. You can let him know you are thinking of him and want to know if he is alright or something like that. He should contact you when he's ready.
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Registered: 08-06-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 1:53am

I will try the voice mail, but honestly ladies. At what point should I give up, or at least stop trying. Basically at what point does it become a blow off?