Should I Meet Mr. Sneaky?

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Should I Meet Mr. Sneaky?
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Fri, 08-07-2009 - 11:18am

OK, here's the background:


While I was away on vacation for a month, a guy who signed his name *T* kept writing to me on the dating site. It was fun thinking of meeting him when I got back.

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Fri, 08-07-2009 - 11:34am

Just reading this makes me vote "no." It's lame enough that he stood you up (more or less) on a first MEET, but then I think it's kind of weird that he's back online with a different user name and no photo. Makes me wonder if he's pulled this flakeyness with other women. I also don't like it when a guy won't send you a photo. Even if he's not "hiding" anything, it's like, WTF? I've got a photo online, why not you?

I suppose you could make the decision once (if) he replies to your latest email.

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Fri, 08-07-2009 - 12:07pm
I think your email to him was great and hopefully he'll respond just so you can get an answer. I'd totally be curious about his response if I were in your shoes, lol. But I don't think you should date him. He totally sounds shady. Sucks when you meet someone you really get along with but he has already given you reason not to trust him and you aren't even dating yet.
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Sat, 08-08-2009 - 8:04pm

I vote no also.

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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 12:56am

" . . . So, I just told him (in email) I didn’t think it would work out. "

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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 5:51pm

No, he called me several times that night, it's just that 10:30 or whatever time was when he was returning from the job he'd been sent on. He was checking in. Yes, after talking with him, that was quite possible, in fact.

Btw, just finished a tremendous New Yorker article on Nora Ephron and want to see Julie/Julia!

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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 5:53pm
Sorry, don't get it. Common sense 101? What?

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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 6:04pm

He called me Friday, hadn't read the e-mail.

So, I asked him a few direct questions. He remembers the events slightly differently, that is, the age difference being why I didn't want to meet him. I'm not thrilled with an age difference, but I've met guys my age, slightly younger and older and--few are in shape. So I was willing to give this a try.

I didn't do a blow by blow of what I remember is like the scene from a Woody Allen movie (I think it was the one where he had the Humphrey Bogart clone giving him advice.)sort of, "Well, I'll be at 737-1212 until 6:30, at which time I can be reached at 345-1234. After that, you can get me on 543-6789." You get the picture.

He explained that he'd really had to go out of town and you gotta make a living. I didn't argue that he could have picked a better evening in that case, 'cause what's the point.

I asked him why he signed his initials and didn't send a photo and he said "I wanted to meet you and I knew I didn't stand a chance if I sent a picture."

He said he'd call me after the weekend because I was busy with visitors. I told him it was all about me. Me, me, me, and he laughed. I wanted some place close to where I live, I wanted *easy.* And I didn't want to lecture him.

We shall see. Tonight I am meeting an older man. Sort of like a sandwich deal, the younger, the older.

I'll admit to wanting to see how he handles this one. Doesn't seem to have a clue that women like a nice, simple arrangement.

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Tue, 08-11-2009 - 3:22am
I apologize as well; I was rather vague.
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 12:25am

I saw it Friday night (opening night) with some friends and it's great!


So what did you decide about this guy?


Sheri

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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 8:00am

Hahahah, after the old man date, I'm ready to give him a try.

Don't think anything will come of it, though. He has little of substance to say on the phone; I have no idea of his interests.

So, perhaps this is just a little amusement for me. I've put him off for a few days--will be away--and we were tentatively to meet yesterday. Then, after the Comcast guys left (I've been in what I'm calling Comcast Hell) I decided I needed an evening with no *man* stimulation. He was fine with that.

I'll post about the older man meet separately. The irony here is that the *older man* is only about six years older that I am.

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