He told me to call him after I got home.

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He told me to call him after I got home.
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Sun, 08-16-2009 - 8:51pm

So I met a guy from a dating site and we hung out for a few hours, watched a movie and talked. As I was getting ready to leave at almost 4am, he told me to text him when I got home (I assume to let him know I made it home safe). I lived 45 mins away, so I texted him when I got home to let him know.

Has anyone ever had a guy do this? Is it just a common courtesy you think, or was it that they were interested in you or a combination of the two? If you've had a guy ask you to call/text them when you got home.. did they end up being interested in you?

I've asked around and some people say it's a common courtesy and others say that guys who do that usually just do so cause they are interested in you and want to know you made it home safe.

Opinions?

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Sun, 08-16-2009 - 10:46pm

Nice, thoughtful sounding.

I'd say, as far as interest goes: watch his actions. They are what counts.

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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 7:38am

Sounds like he definitely is interested. When my last boyfriend & I were first dating, he used to text me at night to make sure I made it home safe after a date.

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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 11:21am
When I was dating my 2nd DH, I used to visit him at his house, which was at least 30 mins. away (if I drove really fast) and I would go home late at night. He always asked me to call when I got home so he would know that I got home safely. I do think that is nice.
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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 5:23pm
Sad to say, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. I've had guys ask me to text when I get home and had nothing happen after that. A former beau had me do it every time, the one time I didn't he had a fit, but then it became code for "It's time for you to go home now". Some say it the same way they say, "I'll call you..."
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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 9:49pm
I got the opinion on this from one of my guy friends and he said he wouldn't ask someone to text him afterwards if he weren't interested, but I guess every guy is different. I texted the guy a little while ago since we hadn't spoken since almost two days ago, so we'll see if he even responds. Ugh, this makes me so anxious.


Edited 8/17/2009 9:51 pm ET by thisisrightnow
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Tue, 08-18-2009 - 12:15pm
It sounds like you're going to have to wait it out and see how his actions play out. Too early to see what his intentions are. At least he sounds like a gentleman so far.
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Tue, 08-18-2009 - 11:23pm

I would say just common courtesy, not necessarily an indication of interest.


Can I ask a basic safety-related question?

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Sun, 08-23-2009 - 3:50am
"Can I ask a basic safety-related question?