Seriously, was he as rude as I think??

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Seriously, was he as rude as I think??
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Mon, 08-17-2009 - 7:31am

I asked out a man that had been flirting with me for some time.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 11:25am
I don't really think he was being either mean or rude, although he should have been more polite and said too bad, thank you for asking, or something like that. I do think that when people text, they tend to send very short messages and not put much emotion in it. You texted him to ask him, so he texted you back. I do not think there is any reason to be embarrassed about seeing him--since he was working, you can just assume that's why he didn't go and treat him like you normally would. I wouldn't flirt w/ him though. Some guys like to flirt when they don't really mean it. If he wants to go out, then he can make the next move.
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Registered: 07-17-2009
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 12:19pm
It really could have just been the type of communication that made him sound that way. Some people don't put any emotion into their texts and they come across as indifferent. I know it feels embarrassing but try to act completely normal when you see him again. If you act like nothing has changed, then most likely nothing will change. I wouldn't approach him at work though. Let him make the moves to communicate with you again.
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 10:38pm

I can definitely see how the text message aspect of all this makes for cold-seeming, impersonal. I type quite quick-like and I'm still slow on the text messages. Though my sis has been trying to get me to text in *word* I just haven't mastered it. I'm mentioning this to say that the niceties that normally are a part of writing disappear when you're struggling to text word by word.


I agree with the posters, just be polite and friendly with him. And let him approach you, silly flirt that he is.