Separated men

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Separated men
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 1:29pm

I'm on OLD and I live on the state line between CT and NY, so I've dated a few guys from NY. In CT, you can get divorced pretty fast, but it seems to take forever in NY. Therefore, on Match, there are a lot of separated guys, but they have been separated for, like, forever (I actually got divorced in RI...90 days from start to finish).

One guy has been emailing me and he seems really great, he's in NY and separated. Part of me is very interested, part of me is kind of leery...He's been separated for quite some time in in the divorce process (court, I guess) and seems to have moved on.

Is this worth pursuing, or would I be setting myself up for disaster? I usually avoid separated guys.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 12:31am

I think it's a good rule of thumb to avoid separated men.

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Registered: 01-16-2006
In reply to: startover96
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:25pm

Don't be to quick to judge the separated thing.

~~Ginger~~ :)
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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: startover96
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 4:03pm

I'm with Sheri on this one.

Sometimes there are circumstances but...that is the exception not the rule.

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Registered: 08-22-2008
In reply to: startover96
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 6:31pm
I'm leery of strangers in general, especially men, but you might as well take the risk, without getting your heart to set on things to work out. Just try to have fun as you look around