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Before I find Mr Right
| Sun, 08-23-2009 - 8:52pm |
I want to be the best Me I can be for myself and my future guy, does that mean I have to have everything in perfect order, or can I be in the process and still be able to find my Mr? I would not want to go into a relationship and burden this guy down with my issues. Should I just wait?

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That makes so much sense! I am working through some things emotionally, nothing major. Just want to make sure I know what I want this time around.
Thanks for the wonderful advice!
I think you can be in the process. The fact that you are even thinking about it is something good, I think.
I kind of went through a realization in the last month or so that I really have to put myself first. It always seemed selfish to me...my ex always expected me to put HIM first, and I went along with it. I thought that's what you did in a relationship. Then after I got divorced and started dating again, I wound up with a lot of not-very-nice men. A lot of big babies, if you know what I mean.
So I decided to focus on things that made me happy. I thought "what am I going to do with the rest of my life?" and 'what would I do with myself if I never looked at a man again?". So I started up with a few old interests.
Now, I seem to have men on OLD coming out of the woodwork. Is it because I don't "care" if they email me or not anymore? I think so.
But I think if you have the awareness that you have some changes to make, you can go into something with someone. Just go slow, and work out your issues with friends and family.