Expectations

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Registered: 06-29-2009
Expectations
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Thu, 08-27-2009 - 3:36pm

Lets say you have been dating someone for about a month/six weeks.

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In reply to: violetpenny
Thu, 08-27-2009 - 6:54pm

My default is to always assume we

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Registered: 10-02-2001
In reply to: violetpenny
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 3:33am

"I myself think that if we are getting to know each other and having fun, I assume they may be dating others and am ok with it until we have a conversation around exclusivity."


This

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Registered: 06-29-2009
In reply to: violetpenny
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 11:55am

Ok, so we are all on the same page it sounds like.

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Registered: 07-17-2009
In reply to: violetpenny
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 12:37pm

I usually assume we are both allowed to date other people. It's when you start getting really intimate after two months of solid dating that it starts to become questionable. But I wouldn't want to bring it up...rather him do it. I make the decision in my head whether or not I want to date other people but don't expect him to do the same thing until he actually says something to me about it. After two or three months of constant dating, I'd rather he not see other women though...just to be honest :)

The long distance doesn't change anything for me.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: violetpenny
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 1:38pm

I agree with the others.

"BUT if someone is paying to fly to you and look after you after you have had surgery, do you really think you should be seeing other people"

Depends on what type of relationship they have...how do you know she didn't just show up, and he knew nothing about it until she got there? You are assuming he asked her to come take care of him, and that might not be the case...

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Registered: 06-29-2009
In reply to: violetpenny
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 2:09pm

I know.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
In reply to: violetpenny
Fri, 08-28-2009 - 4:05pm

Sounds like a good compromise. And yes stay away from the Tequila.

Good luck.

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Registered: 10-02-2001
In reply to: violetpenny
Sat, 08-29-2009 - 3:18am

My previous answer stands.