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| Sat, 09-05-2009 - 12:33pm |
I need some input on a matter. I met this guy at a sports bar a couple weeks ago. He is 49 and I am 31. We had a great conversation exchanged phone numbers etc. We met up again this last week except for this time his ex gf was texting him the entire time we were together and he finally asked her to come up and have a drink with us (us meaning the two of us and all his friends that were already there, this is where he and his ex hung out I am guessing and have some of the same friends). She then came up and I met her and she was everything but nice to me. She wanted his sympathy the entire time about a personal matter she was having. He told me not to feel weird about this that they were "just friends" and she had a bf. He asked me to dinner after this and on the way he started talking about her again. He said she was an alcoholic and the only thing between them that was good was the sex. I just feel disgusted by all of this. When we were at dinner he continued to text her and told me that she was upset because he acted like he didnt care about her problem. What the heck? This is no way to start out with someone. I have not dated all that much because of long term relationships but I know this can't be right. He asked me to go to a concert this weekend and I decided not to go. Should I just forget this thing while I can get out with minimal drama. I feel like I am headed into a mess but then I think what if things got better. I really felt a connection with this guy I thought. Please help!

Hello xoxo girl! I am a 50-year old married dude and I rarely post over her on the dating board. I will give you my strong opinion: forget this inconsiderate guy and move on. My dear friend, he is out on a date with you and he is texting his ex-girlfriend, what? Furthermore, he just met you and he telling you the sex was great with his ex but she was an alcoholic. What kind of drugs does he take? You felt disgusted for a reason, he's a low life.
This man has no respect for you or himself. Think about this, if he acts this way when he first meets you imagine how he will be in the future. Dating him is a complete waste of time. There is no way you had a connection with this guy you just met him! Don't be so eager to get into a relationship since you will be vulnerable to horrible mistakes. Personally, this guy is way to old for you. He will need Viagra in 10-years and a diaper in 20 years, LOL. In addition, stay away from the bar scene as most quality guys don't hang out there.
Good luck, I wish you well.
"his ex gf was texting him the entire time we were together and he finally asked her to come up and have a drink with us"
Um, this right here would be enough for me to say "Adios." I make it a point to not even say "ex-husband" or "ex-boyfriend" to anyone I am meeting for the first time, and I want him to do the same. When man talks a lot about an ex (not to mention invites them on dates) it's just clear to me he's not over her, regardless of whether she's got a boyfriend or not.
This guy is clueless at best, and just plain inappropriate. I would definitely move on.
Run. Fast.
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