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should i delete him?
| Wed, 09-09-2009 - 11:15am |
My boyfriend and i got into an argument. After trying to make mends with him, he told me he needs to think and he doesn't know whether or not he wants to be with me. After about a week, i couldn't help but notice that he changed his relationship status online. When i tried to speak to him again he told me he still doesn't know but that he'll call me one day. I accept that we're broken up but is it too rash to just delete him as my friend? What message would that give? sorry so juvenile

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Dear Periwinkle,
I disagree if you want to delete his profile from your friend's page.
First, it will make you look aggressive and he will be annoyed for the fact that you cut him off before he makes any decision on you.
Secondly, I think ur profile is a good tool to put many fun pictures with your friends that he may look at. If he decides to break up with you, at least just give him the pleasure to show him how great you life is without him.
At least, that's what I did :) Cheers!
ugh you're right but i unfortunately found myself wild with emotions and i deleted him.
I'm guessing you're both, in fact, young. Well, I wish I could say that when you're *old* like me it stops because mature, experienced, worldy-wise folks don't act like that. I'd be lying.
Not that I do, of course.
I try not to but dating sometimes brings out the worst in us because so much goes to ego and our self-opinion. Not to mention (which I'm indeed mentioning) self-worth, self-image, self-anything and everything.
I probably would have asked him why he gets to choose, why is it his turn, deep questions such as those. Designed to provoke. See? I can be juvenile, too.
Anyway, these sorts of things are probably times when it's best to step back and take a breather. Not just him, you too.
You can always re-add him as a friend as a "reaching out" gesture. Then give him all the time in the world.
While you're stepping out, having fun.
Thanks.
I am going thru the same exact thing and I am 46 and he is 49. LOL. I too
I deleted my love interest (not ex, just a passionate weekend fling I had had awhile ago). I was sick of thinking about him all the time, which translated into me looking at his fb and pictures all the time, as well as wanting to see if he had anyone special in his life. I deleted him, bc I felt it wasn't healthy for me anymore! And I knew his page was on private, bc I checked after the delete!
So what does he do as soon as I delete him? Open his page back up! Now I can still look at it, so it's like nothing has changed except for me looking like a passive aggressive fool.
Ugh...he is always on my mind. :o(
LOL- why do we always think guys are so much greater than they actually are?
I swear, fb is the spawn of the devil. It really brings out the juvenile behavior in all of us!
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