The little things- is it me or my BF?

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Registered: 09-13-2004
The little things- is it me or my BF?
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Thu, 09-10-2009 - 9:09am
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Thu, 09-10-2009 - 4:42pm

I think that even when you are married, both people need to develop their own interests and not do everything together. I could see a scenario where both of you are working and then you two are spending every other moment together. Do you still go out w/ your girlfriends or do things w/ your family w/o him? Do you belong to any clubs or do any things w/o him being there? If not, start. I think that's why he may be getting on your nerves. And studies have shown that it's very important for a couple to have time apart, otherwise, they really have nothing to talk about.

As far as being a little awkward, give him a break. He's probably just nervous and as he gets to know these people better, he'll be more relaxed.

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Thu, 09-10-2009 - 5:19pm

I think MusicLover said it so well: give this poor guy a break! He sounds great in all the areas that count.


Space to go away and do something on your own and then come back and compare notes, talk about separate interests would work for me--try it and see. Does he have friends?


I think that the very idea of someone who has to warm up to others is endearing. Refreshing, too.

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 2:15pm

Thank you both.

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Wed, 09-23-2009 - 10:24pm

This sounds like a case of too much, too soon and going too fast in the relationship.