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am I trying too hard?
| Fri, 09-11-2009 - 8:42am |
hey there:)I recently reconnected with a friend fom high school whom I haven't seen in over ten years.We had only been good friends,although he had once confessed to me that he had strong feelings for me, but I was moving away so nothing ever developped.We met up for coffee to catch up, and I had a great time.There was instant chemistry between us.He asked me if I would join him a few days later

It sounds like the two of you are being pretty honest about your feelings, so I think that's a good thing. I do think asking him about the definition of your relationship was not a good idea so early on (I'm thinking this has only been a few weeks?) but what's done is done and all you can do is go from here.
I would just let things unfold naturally and not worry so much right now about where it's going. I know this is hard when you've met someone you really like and it seems the feeling is mutual. But you know, I don't think anything bad ever comes from taking it a little slow. Your feelings could change a great deal over the next few weeks for all you know.
Now this doesn't mean that down the road you shouldn't discuss what you "are" to each other, especially regarding sexual exclusivity. But I think too, that when two people are really meant for each other that early "blunders" aren't going to matter that much.