So lets say this happened to you...

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So lets say this happened to you...
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Mon, 09-14-2009 - 8:41pm

Picture yourself in this situation, this goes for both you ladies and fellas. Your out with your significant other, and you notice them committing a very stupid deed. Even though they think they are being sly, you notice their every move. They are totally checking out, visually undressing and possibly fantasizing about another guy/girl standing 2 ft away from you. You pretend like you haven't noticed a thing, but now what do you do? What would you say, or do to embarrass them at this very moment, and teach them a lesson about their very rude wondering eye.

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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 2:15am
WOW, this is kind of tough!
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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 5:11am

My XH used to do that ALL the time! it bothered me a little but men are visual so I used to just keep him in line with a quick snappy comment such as "is she wearing something of yours?" or "is she a relative i dont know about?" He would immediately put his tongue back in his head and become less obvious. Happened almost every time we went out the door though.... cretin.

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 10:57am
Thanks for your replies, but I was hoping to hear of
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Tue, 09-15-2009 - 2:31pm
I can't imagine a less productive way to react to this--sure he'll get the message, but he'll also think you are a witch and he'll justify his behavior because you "overreacted." I think that if it's not something that someone can laugh off & make a joke about (which would be my 1st reaction, unless someone continued to do it), then I would actually talk to my BF and tell him what was bothering me and how I felt about it. That is the way adults communicate w/ each other if they actually want a relationship, not by refusing to talk when they are together, but later sending a message that is very crude.
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Registered: 06-01-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 8:06pm

Well, that makes the two of you who aren't

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Fri, 09-18-2009 - 10:22am
Every normal male checks out other women, the difference is in the way they do it. It ranges from blatant tongue hanging out of their head and the total head turn, to you not even being able to notice. There is a level of reaction that crosses the line into being inappropriate or offensive and a turn off to a woman. If a person continually crosses this line, then that is a problem. If a person can be brought into line after 1 incident, then lesson learned. I don't think a person needs to go to extremes to let their SO know they are crossing the line. Just tell them.