Sex addict or not?

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Registered: 09-10-2009
Sex addict or not?
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Mon, 09-14-2009 - 8:44pm

Im 17 and really really love sex. I lost my v plates at 15 and since then ive been with almost 20 boys! Does this make me a

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 5:13am
are you serious? Do YOU think that you have a problem?
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 2:36pm

As a mother of a 20 yr old girl, I feel very sad for you. It seems like you look at sex as a form of recreation (?) that doesn't have any meaning to you and is just something to do for fun. Is that how your parents raised you to believe? I am certainly hoping that my kids don't feel that way. I'm not unrealistic to think that they will wait for marriage, but I would hope they would at least be having a relationship w someone and not just do it randomly w/ anyone who comes along.

I do think that you are certainly putting yourself at risk for STDs and unplanned pregnancy and probably not having healthy relationships in the future. Why do you think you behave that way? And don't give the easy answer, cause it feels good. Of course, it feels good, but most people don't have that many sex partners either because their moral standards don't allow it or they are looking for more than just a hookup. I assume you are in high school--what do you think the boys in your class are thinking about you? That you will sleep w/ anyone, right? But the boys who really want a GF aren't going to look at you as that type of person.

If you can't figure out why you are doing this, it might be worthwhile for you to consult a therapist.

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Tue, 09-15-2009 - 7:55pm

I agree with Musiclover, who's given you a sincere reply. Is your question sincere, though? Your *handle* gives me pause, although I'm not really going to pursue a line of doubt here.


You asked a question that isn't really for this board--you definitely need to see a professional on this one.

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Registered: 09-10-2009
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 6:19am

Well how it all started i was molested by my step dad when i was 11 and was too young to know right from wrong. I thought that was how boys were ment to treat me and that they were allowed to do what he did and how he did it.. against my wishes..


i never told my mum til a few years after so she was never there for me when i needed hur most.


Boys have easily taken advantage of the fact that i think that way but az i got older and knew more about pregnancy so i got myself onto the pill. I got my first boyfriend at 14 almost 15 and i was with him 4 a few months then i found out he cheated and it hurt so much i just wanted to make it all go away and thats when i started drinking heavily, wanting to just have fun

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-16-2009 - 2:15pm
If you have never had therapy, please get it now. If you have health insurance, they will pay, if not, your school counselor could probably help you find a low cost program. I'm not surprised at all that you are acting this way because you were abused. If you don't get help, this will probably affect you into adulthood. It's not your fault, you just need some help to deal with it. You could also call a rape crisis center.
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Registered: 07-10-2002
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 10:53pm
Yes,