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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:24am
hey there:)I posted a message alittle while back about how I thought I had possibly scared off this guy I had started dating.I had (being insecure)asked him if he was happy with how things had been going and asked him if I was "pushing"too fast.He had responded that no, I wasn't being too pushy and that he enjoyed being with me and that he wanted to see where things led.That had made me feel a little better.Anyway,that was a couple of weeks ago, and shortly thereafter, he started working a second job so our time together has been limited.We still call each other and text on a regular basis, and the other night he even asked me to stop in and see him at work(he works night security)What bothers me is that I love when we see each other(my heart skips a beat each time)and although he makes comments about making plans to meet up again, I always worry that things won't pan out, that he'll lose interest .Is it normal to think that way?Am I expecting too much, too soon?In every other relationship I've had, I've rushed into things way too quickly, and usually it doesn't work out in the end.I guess that I wish that I could label what our relationship is.I also know that there is another girl that has a thing for him.He told me that all he could ever be is friends with her, but I feel like i have competition.Am I just being paranoid, or are my worries justified?
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Registered: 08-08-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 4:47pm

The doubts of a date not panning out, the worry he will lose interest, personal need of reassurance, need to label the relationship, worry of other women as competition. Girl, you sound just like me about a year ago!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 10:40pm

How long have you been dating, and have you specifically agreed to be exclusive?