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he tried to have sex on our 2nd date
| Sun, 10-11-2009 - 6:08pm |
Ok, this might be obvious..but then again, men are NEVER obvious to me, LOL.
I went out with this guy for the second time. He tried to sleep with me but I said i was not ready, and he said ok i won't. We fooled around a little bit, but i kept to my word--no sex.
So does this mean he just wants sex? He's a sweet guy and i was a little surprised he tried to get it right away. But not THAT surprised because he is a male, haha. I've gone on dates where the guy hasn't tried to kiss me til the 4th or 5th date! So i'm just looking for a little insight :)I know i sounds a little naive, pretty new to this dating game!
Thanks!

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thanks for all your insights. the thing about it, is that I met him from a legit dating website. so, i don't know if he's just desperate to have sex or if he really likes me and wants to pursue something. but then, i went on 5 dates with this other guy (adding up to a little over a month), he waited til the 5th date to kiss me, then we hooked up (but did not have sex, nor did he try) and then he never contacted me after that.
this dating thing is hard! hehe
I have heard about couples who have had sex early on and yet
This flys in the face of what many of you are saying, but my first wife and I had sex before we ever went on a date.
Oh, yes,
there are ALWAYS exceptions. although i hate thinking about "the rules". if it feels right, then it does. and if it doesn't work out because you slept with someone too early, then oh well. your passion took over and there is nothing you can do about it.
i personally would have no problem having sex with someone within the first few dates. i just worry, as a girl, that the guy only wants, well, one thing. i want to be respected and don't want him to think he can get the milk for free! hehe. I have a very high sex drive so yes i usually want it on the first date, BUT i restrain myself.
2nd date jitters....
I am actually going through a similar situation, except tonight will be the 2nd date. We had the first meet-and-greet date at the beginning of the week, and then he called and asked me out midweek for Sat night. He's very polite, and sweet, and said he wanted to cook a meal for me, at his place.
So, the dilemma I am faced with is, what if he expects more and I am not ready to give it? I am thinking about that so much that it is taking the fun out of getting ready for the date. I like this guy, but I have been hurt in the past by instant attraction and then falling into bed, then nothing. I haven't even allowed myself to be more than semi-attracted to this guy.
I had stopped dating for a few months, and recently went back online. I don't want to have to be on guard the entire time I am sitting at the table with this guy.
I want to be able to relax and be myself without having to worry about fending him off. The first date, he hugged me bye, but no kiss, and he's not calling constantly or acting clingy. I have no reason to think he might be pushy, other than my own fears. I guess I'm condemning this guy without giving him a chance.
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