Is this a sign?

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Is this a sign?
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Sun, 10-18-2009 - 4:34pm


Hi Everybody,

There is this woman working at a business, which I'm a customer recently.
FYI, we're both (I guess) in mid 30s.
I noticed her first time about 2 weeks ago when she said "she likes my jacket" while I was signing the paperwork. She's really beautiful.
This might sound silly, but I was almost flattered by her polite and friendly attitude. I met her again after a week and this time we chatted a bit more. I went there once more, and this time another clerk was working, but she showed up and recognized me and we exchanged greetings.
I left the place and while waiting at the red light, a car came up and there she was again recognizing me first and waved. The strange thing that happened was that she forgot about the red light and tried to cross, but another car was approaching at high speed, and suddenly she pulled back!

I have heard and read about body language and its interpretation, but this one, I had not heard of. Does it mean that I make her very nervous? hopefully in a positive way?

I appreciate your opinion,

lannmann

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: lannmann
Mon, 10-19-2009 - 3:09pm
I don't think I would read too much into this--she could have just been distracted, but I hope it's a store that you could continue to go into often, like a coffee shop, so you can continue to talk to her.
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Registered: 10-18-2009
In reply to: lannmann
Mon, 10-19-2009 - 11:41pm

Thanks musiclover12. You're right, I shouldn't read too much into that. The jacket as well? I wish it was a coffee shop, but it's a sort of business that you don't go very often, and she might not be on the front desk. Anyway, I'll keep my fingers crossed :)
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Registered: 10-18-2009
In reply to: lannmann
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 3:48am

Talking a little every other week wouldn't get me anywhere. Would it be weird if I gave her something? Other suggestions?
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: lannmann
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 10:10am
I do think it would be weird if you gave her something, unless you have the excuse that she gave you some exceptional service. Even then it would be more appropriate to praise her work to her manager. I think that if you can't just "drop by" or be in her area, you really have to take the direct approach and ask her if it would be ok if the 2 of you got together outside of work, maybe for lunch or coffee, something light, and ask if she's willing to give you her phone number or email to set it up. Sometimes you just have to be bold & take a chance.
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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: lannmann
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 10:49am

No, no gifts. No lurking around the store.

Just go in & ask her on an actual date.

Have a time & place ready to announce. "I'd like to take you to coffee/dinner/a hike in the park, are you free Saturday morning/afternoon/evening?"

(Whatever your budget allows, no need to be extravagant, it's just a first date)

Either way it'll be better than this waiting in limbo that you've got going on. If she's taken already & "just being nice," then you'll be free to seek another woman. If she's into you, she'll accept your date.

Seize the Day!!

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 10-18-2009
In reply to: lannmann
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 12:55pm

Thanks for all the support. I'm a chicken in front of others, but I'll ask :)
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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: lannmann
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 4:52pm

It's not easy for anyone. We're pulling for ya babes!

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha