I'm lost. Help please!!

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Registered: 02-12-2004
I'm lost. Help please!!
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Thu, 02-12-2004 - 11:33am
Hi dear,

I met this great guy saturday at a party, and we seemed to like each other very much. We discovered to be born the same day and year as well!!!! He took my phone number and called me sunday to ask how I was. Then nothing. Then he called me again on tuesday, and we talked for two minutes or so. He told me he would call me someday to meet for a coffe. Until now nothing. Should I call him?? What will I do, every moment I think about him.....Need your advise please.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 11:44am
This is a signal to you to touch base with reality if someone you met once less than a week ago is occupying your thoughts to this extent. No, the ball is in his court and my guess is that he is not that into you if all he wants to do is meet for coffee "sometime" - perhaps he has a girlfriend or someone else he is dating - for whatever reason he is not willing to put in the effort to make plans for a date with you - he is willing to risk that you will meet another great guy this weekend and he will be history.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 2:37pm
Why would you want to call him, when he has your phone number and can call you? My guess is that from the phone conversation he had with you, he is not too terribly interested at this point. I know that is disappointing. Its possible he may still call. But he is still, at this point in time, only feeling lukewarm towards you. Next time he does call, tell him you are getting ready to go out with friends and don't have time to talk.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2004
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 2:47pm
Sounds to me he is not sure whether he wants to make a definate coffee date w/ you because he said "maybe someday". What was your reply? Did you say anything to the effect of "yes, that sounds great" or? Don't call him. Give him a few days to make a move. Also he may want to wait until after Valentines Day because he does'nt want to rush things. Have a great day!
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Thu, 02-12-2004 - 2:52pm
Rein yourself in, dear. You met him Saturday, he called you the next day, then again 2 days later. No, you shouldn't call him. He seems to be calling you frequently enough. If he calls again make it clear you're interested and then there's really not much more you can do (I personally don't go in for playing games, like hard to get). Either he asks you on a date or he doesn't. But at this point try not to let him occupy so much of your mental real estate -- he's still a stranger.