What was I thinking????
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What was I thinking????
| Sat, 02-14-2004 - 2:25pm |
I made a really, really big mistake last night and I have no idea what to do or who to turn to. I'm 21 and have been going through a tough time recently with the breakup of a long term relationship. Last night I made the not so bright decision to go out drinking with some friends to get my mind off things. There was a guy there that I knew from years ago, though I don't know him well, and I am not attracted to him in the least. But he was there, I was depressed, one thing led to another and we slept together. I regret this more than anything I've ever done, because my ex is the only one I've ever been with and I'm not one to have one night stands. This guy knows a lot of my acquaintances and his friends talk to someone I've gone on a couple of dates with that actually has potential (we are not together at this point though) and know I feel like I've ruined both my reputation and any chance at a relationship with the other guy. I'm so embarassed and ashamed. Now this guy I was with last night wants to see me again and this morning he was all cuddly and didn't want to leave.........to top things off, the condom broke and being hammered, I didn't care, and I was on the pill but I stopped about a month ago. I really need to do some damage control.....please help!

Your ex is an ex for a reason and try to focus on those things. You are an adult--if you chose to do something, it's none of his business. You have a right to your life. If people are going to talk, then forget them... they'd talk about you or the next person because they have nothing better to do...
You did nothing horrendous. You had a weak moment and you've realized you didn't want to do it. Don't beat yourself up! Just move forward. Take time for yourself. If your ex is smart, he'll realize the person he's lost.
Good luck.