Falling for the wrong guy

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Registered: 02-14-2004
Falling for the wrong guy
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Sat, 02-14-2004 - 9:12pm
I've met a man who I am very attracted to and we have spent a lot of time talking and doing fun things. The problem is that he is in a dating relationship he is not happy with and says he is confused. He wants to be friends until he figures things out, but I can't do that as it is too hard. He never says anything positive about the relationship he is in and is not sure he wants to continue, but can't seem to make the decision. I told him I can't be "just friends" and am stepping away from the relationship. I am not sure why I get myself into these types of relationships, as they hurt very much and make me feel like I will never meet anyone for me.
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Sat, 02-14-2004 - 9:57pm
You're doing the right thing. You have to ask yourself: if the other relationship is so bad, why is he having such a hard time ending it. I don't think he's all that. Someone who speaks negatively about one person he's dating to another person he's dating isn't all that great IMO. It makes you wonder what he says about YOU to HER, doesn't it? I'd cut your losses and move on. He doesn't sound like serious relationship material at this point. It takes a lot more than being attracted to someone and doing fun things together for that person to be right for you, and for a successful healthy relationship to develop. When someone thinks YOU are the right person for HIM, he will have no problem being committed to you and you alone. He'll be enthusiastic and eager to do so. Don't settle for less than that!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sat, 02-14-2004 - 11:19pm

Hello


The bottom line is he is in a relationship, therefore not available.

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