does he like me?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
does he like me?
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Sun, 02-15-2004 - 3:39pm
I feel like a little kid, a teenager. I like this man who is the father of my daugther's friend. He is recently split with his wife. I am recently split up with long-term bf. I like him! I have a crush on him. I am just not feeling confident about how forward to be. I have never been good at these things. Anyway, sometimes, the way I look at the things he has done makes me believe that YES, he likes me. Can someone here just listen to a few of the things he's said to me?

The other day I emailed him and invited his daughter and the other kids, and that always means him too, to an event that my daughter goes to every year. He responded, "that sounds great, thanks for inviting us." He has been equally enthusiatic when I have had kid parties. The few times that I have initiated anything with our kids together, he has always been enthusiastic. Every week my daughter goes over to there house for dinner, and he brings her home. So I get to see him for a moment at our front door.

He has invited us swimming and skating. I know, this is all for the kids, but it still included us, the two grown-ups.

The big one for me is, I just FEEL that he is interested. When I see him on the playground, he always seems to notice me or want to talk. The other day at drop off time, I was in a hurry to work and we said hi,and as I was passing, he said, OH, did you get those tupperware things, meaning from his babysitter. I thought that was so cute. Does he really care if I got the tupperware, cause I kind of thought that was an excuse to talk a little bit more. Maybe not.

I have to be more solid about showing him that I like him, and not running away. In a post I wrote yesterday I was feeling so bad cause I saw him in our cars and pretended not to see him. I feel like a teenager!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 10:50am
you sound like you are most definitely having a big crush on this guy...I don't know if you're misinterpreting what's going on, but from what you've written, I don't see that he's doing anything in particular to show that he's interested in you as a woman, he's behaving the way one does with other parents. Is there anything to pursue?

If there is, you have to tread carefully, neither of you are ready to date. If you pursue him and you end up together for three weeks (what are you really thinking is going to happen when you've just split up from long term relationships)...can you go back to being the happy parents of two friends without putting a damper on the kids' relationship?

Step back and look at the big picture, is it wise to pursue something with this guy? In your shoes, I would rather rebound with people outside of my daughter's circle.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 2:45pm
Your'e right. Your're right.