how to deal....

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Registered: 02-04-2004
how to deal....
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:44pm
How do you deal with knowing the person you care about so much and love so much and has made you feel like you never have before will never care about you the same way and won't come back to you? The situation i am in has made me feel like i'm not good enough for him and is just killing my self-confidence and i don't know how to deal with this i don't know what i am suppose to think or how i am suppose to look at the situation. No matter what i do he acts like he wants nothing to do with me unless we are alone and not in public which really made me feel used and i was pissed when he told me that and i havent talked to him since he told me thats what he wanted on friday. Its hard to accept that his feelings have just gone away. he always tells me if we start "hanging out" and seeing eachother more his feelings will come back but then he said he never sees us together again though i am sooo confused with him. just some advice would me nice thanks....
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Registered: 11-29-2003
In reply to: j_hun18
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 1:54pm
Sweetie this sounds like a toxic situation, I think the best thing for you to do is cut your loses and move on. You mentioned Self-Confidence, something that you allow him to have control over, and that's something YOU own not HIM. Work on you being good to yourself, and surround yourself with positive people, forget him.

(((Big Hugs))
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: j_hun18
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 2:17pm
You deal with the personal rejection part - we all get rejected, and reject at some point, you have to rely on your personal sense of self confidence as opposed to relying on someone else to make you feel good (always dangerous) and, in knowing what you're worth, you decide not to have contact with someone you are not on the same page with romantically.