Why don't men call when they say?

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Why don't men call when they say?
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 4:18pm
All the time, on a consistent basis. Seems like they call you when they want to see you, but when its just to chit chat, they may wait days or weeks. And not even calling back just to have sex with you--because this happens with guys I have never been intimate with. Its just why do they do it period?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 4:39pm
I generally do not have that problem with a man I date more than twice - after one date they may say they will call and then don't. One of the reasons I do not have that problem is that I do not tolerate unreliability without an emergency excuse so I quickly screen out the unreliable ones - my time is too precious to waste on those types and I have never wanted for dates, nor do I look like a model ;-)
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Registered: 10-22-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 8:28pm
Some do. Some don't. You're just not choosing wisely. Not only does my man call every time he says he will, he does things for me constantly that I don't ask him to do. He's a very giving, considerate guy and I can rely on him 100%. Time to ask yourself why you are settling for such unreliable, inconsiderate men? What you settle for and choose is what you'll end up with. Remember that and good luck.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 12:04am
"Seems like they call you when they want to see you, but when its just to chit chat, they may wait days or weeks."

most men don't like to just chitchat... so they call when they want to see you.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 4:44am

I can only speak for myself and I know that when I have failed to call when I said I would it was because of a reason. Although, I will admit that most men are not chit-chatters. We just don't have enough words and we use most of them throughout the day and there just aren't any left to chit-chat with.


Men tend to be more "bottom line" type of people. That is to say that there is a reason for calling - such as to tell you that they want to see you. Chit-chatting just isn't high on the male agenda. Getting to see you is. See the difference?


However, that does not excuse not calling if he has said he would - that's a different thing entirely. As Deena said, failing to do what you said you would do without a valid reason (not an excuse - a reason, there is a difference) is showing a lack of respect for you or your time.


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