How do you know if a guy likes you????
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How do you know if a guy likes you????
| Mon, 02-16-2004 - 4:50pm |
Okay i am in need of some serious advice. I meet this guy about 2 months ago, we slowly started talking and eventually hung out a few times. We just watched moives mostly. Though he works out of town. So he ends up being home for 4 days then is gone for 10.. so when ever he comes home we talk. Here is the problem, I really reallly like this guy, and i just want to know how he feels about me. He gives me mix signs all the time. We have some mutal friends and last weekend we ended up at the same party and he barley said 2 words to me when his friends were all around but as soon as we were alone he was talking to me and it was all good. And then the next night he called me at like 1 in the morning and we talked for like 2 hours and he then left for work for 10 days. After being gone for about 5 days he sent me a text message that asked it i wanted to hang out thursday when he got home from work, and i said yes shure and he was like great i will call you thursday night. Thursday rolled around and he never called so friday night i text me and just asked what he was doing and he said he was on a ski trip now with his friends adn wont be home for 2 more weeks. So i was like Okay whatever then this is just stupid and he totally ditched me, but then that night at like 4 in the morning he phones me from his hotel room and said that he miss me and all this stuff. And wants me to come there and stay with him for the weekend. And i said i had no money and he was like i will pay for you blah blah blah.. i am soo confused and dont know if this guy really likes me or if he is just pissing around. WHAT SHOULD I DO????? i just want to know how he feels about me, but i dont want to ask him cause that would just make things werid. HELP!!!!!!!!!

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But...the way to tell if a guy likes you is most of the time quite simple. You don't have to guess about it. That's it. If he likes you, he'll let you know through his actions towards you. Mixed signals is a red flag for other things going on. I would say that you don't have to cut him off but you should stop taking him so seriously and ease back on caring one way or the other.
However...this guy could be a creep. He doesn't speak to you around his friends...that's a blow off. Why not speak to you then. What happened to calling before bedtime?? I know you're a woman but respect is important and frankly men from my experience call in the middle of the night to insure you don't think they're taking you out. It's childish. Why can't he call at a decent hour?
As far as his standing you up, the first time should have been the last time. He is immature and careless with how he makes other people feel. If he sends midnight messages he could have sent an early one to let you know he's not going to make it. I will also add that it denotes he's irresponsible and unreliable. When he comes around fully trying to get to know you leaving you with no doubts of his interest, then consider him. But for now, let him be someone elses drama.
Edited 2/16/2004 8:23:37 PM ET by embracelife2004
I really can't judge whether this guy is good or bad, since guys can be strange sometimes about showing their feelings. I agree with everyone else here-- late night chats are okay every once in a while, but it's always nice to get a call at a respectable hour. I certainly would avoid all ideas of hanging out in a hotel room!
Basically, if a guy likes you, he's going to want to do all of those things that a normal boyfriend would do- take you out to dinner (even if it's TGIFridays!), buy you flowers, or just call to ask how your day was. Trust me, guys will want to do this if they are into you. If he's not doing that, he's probably not primed to be boyfriend material just yet.
However, if there is something about this guy that gets your heart racing, maybe you ought to drop the hint that you would like to be called at a decent hour and that MAYBE the two of you could do something when he gets back into town. See what he thinks and what he suggests. If he's being totally lame and not wanting to be seen with you in public (and that my friend is the true litmus test) then it's time to cast your line back into the sea for a better catch!
He does cal at 'regular' hours as well. He usally gets home on friday nights at bout 8 and will call me when he gets home to see how my week was and what i am doing that night. And then will phone again at like 3 in the morning when he get out of the bar to see what i did all night and that. He also just phoned me a few days ago while he was stil out of town and talked for about an hour which he has to pay long distance for!!! He has also suggested that me and him go to the movies, but we just never find time, cause we are both so busy that when we do get a chance to do something its at like 10.
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