brother is seeing my bf's ex gf

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brother is seeing my bf's ex gf
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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 6:58pm
My boyfriend and i have been together for almost seven years. In the past we have had problems and been on and off. During our last break up he started to see someone and well that was for less then a month we worked things out and now we are planning on getting married. The problem is that now my brother who is friends with that girl seems too be spending too much time with her. I think they are dating. The other day when i got home i found her in my house and well they weren't doing anything but still i see that something is going on. I talked to my brother and told him i didn't mind if they were seeing eachother (i actually do) but to not bring her here. Am i wrong to get in between? It's just hard to see her, and in my house. My brother seems to like her, how can I go about this?




Ok, now that you have read this and made up your mind as to what to say look @ reply # 3


Edited 2/16/2004 9:53:58 PM ET by atropo2001

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Mon, 02-16-2004 - 8:36pm
Girl please, you have your man why do you care if she dates your brother. Do you trust your boyfriend? Do you trust your brother? If the answer to both are yes, don't sweat it. If she is lingering for no good reasons she won't be there long. It was a month long fling. However, if you have to worry about your boyfriend (insecurities)...are you sure he's ready for marriage and someone you want to marry.

Just think of it this way, she was the rebound that didn't last a month and you're the woman in his life. You're the one he runs back to. If your man is being good to you, you're able to work through problems and bounce back, and you're happy, why not hope that your brother and this woman who is alone can hook up and find the same thing.

If she is respectful and kind towards you, why not.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Mon, 02-16-2004 - 10:17pm
I am the ex, i wrote about myself. I went out with this girls boyfriend that knowing much about them. He and i had met through another friend and he asked for my number and i did not give to to him thinking he was with someone. After we had a talk he told me that he and his girlfriend had split up about 2 months ago, i then said ok and gave him my number. His gf did call my house and was very rude to me telling me to stop calling him and i really had left him alone, and since she was calling my house and being rude i said some things to her. Well we split up and they got back together. This girl's brother was a close friend of mine not a life time friend but since we always went out together with the group and i hang out with guys mainly i saw him like another brother. We went on a trip and we begun seeing each other differently so after the trip we caught a movie here and there, but we were not intimate. We would talk about us and always got to the conclusion that we would not work because of the family history and we would stop calling and seeing each other. This would not last because we would always go back to doing the same. Not too long ago we decided to give it a try and though we didn't tell any one we did start going out seriously. Well we broke it up a few days ago when we had that same talk, the thing is that this time it hurts us so much. We saw each other againg the day after Valentines and it killed us both, being so close and yet unable to get close. I just wanted to get someone elses view on the subject from her point of view. Im trying to understand and see if she is being logical or selfish. Now that you have hear both sides of the story i would appreciate your thoughts on this. Thanks