some inspiration needed!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2004
some inspiration needed!
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:05am
ok I need some inspiration / motto!

I've just slept (well a few weeks back) with my best male friend! Not a bad thing you might think considering we've know each other for years, really enjoy each others company and can say anything to each other! Not good at all though, he's engaged to be married.

The thing is I don't want to do anything as drastic (not unless I have to)as stop being friends with him but I need some bit of inspiration to stop all feelings in their tracks. I'm trying to work on the fact that he's going to be a married man but because I knew him before he ever met this girl I can't seem to get it through my thick skull!

suggestions please!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:22am
Well how about taking in the fact that he’s a louse and he’s a cheater and know that you’re the lucky one in this deal because he obviously has no respect for his fiancée or he wouldn’t have slept with you. She’s the only one losing out in this deal! BLECH! What a cad!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:59am
That should do it!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 12:22pm
The right thing to do IMHO is to stay away from him completely - your feelings do not count particularly since you didn't consider his fiancee's feelings and decided to sleep with him anyway - bad karma move, I think. He needs to focus on being married, let's hope he doesn't cheat again and he certainly doesn't need you around as a reminder. Also you know he is capable of cheating - is that a person you have compatible values with?