What to do now!!!

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Registered: 02-17-2004
What to do now!!!
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 10:22am
I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago. We had been arguing a lot. The day after I did it I regreted it so much. We sat down and talked and he said that he had shut his feelings and emotions off for me. He loved but was not in love with me. He said I was verbally abusive towards him...we argued a lot. I didn't realize how much I loved him until I took a step back for these past two weeks. He wants to remain friends I do to I just don't know if it will be hard to. He said that he needs to distance himself from me right now and that his life is a lot less stressful without the arguing. He has some items at my house and I told him that he needs to get them and he acts like no big deal.. My friends say that this is a way for him to leave the door open to come back into my life by leaving his things there. I want him back in my life. Every other break up I have just ended it and that was it. This one I can't get out my mind and have such deep feelings. He has never been friends with an x before either. Could these be signs of maybe getting back together.

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Registered: 02-17-2004
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 11:07am
I totally know how you feel. The same exact thing happened to me a week and a half ago. He has also left his things. And my friends are saying the same thing about that being him wanting to come back. The truth is though that both you and I know that it may mean that and it may not.

I have picked up the phone to call him a million times. Luckily he stopped by last friday and we went out to dinner. I thought that meant we were getting back together. But then I haven't heard from him since then.

I think it would be cool for us to keep in touch. I will give you advice and you do the same for me. My friends are tired of me and you know how that feels I am sure. You just hate to keep calling them.

So tell me about how it all came about and what happened. If you want you can send me your e-mail and we can correspond. My name is Natalie

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:55pm
Hey, I have also been a a situation somewhat similar. I was dating my X for 2 years and we ended it about 10 months ago. We faught all the time and eventually that is why we ended things. It was really hard on both of us at first because we wanted to be with each other but when we were together all we did was argue. We slowly stop talking all together which was very hard b/c i couldnt stop thinking about how much i wanted him so i tired replacing him with anything and anyone which ended up sooooo bad in the end. Anyways it has been about 10 months now and me and him are like best friends!!! It is soo wonderful. We are both happy with right now ( he is dating someone new, and i like someone new) and we can talk with each other openly now. And we have both talked about what went wrong in our relationship and have both admitted that later on in life we might have a chance still. Okay I dont know if that helps you at all. I guess i am just trying to tell you that things may seem bad right now but they will get better. And i think him leaving things at your house is a good thing... just be careful to not fall back into your old routine of arguing!! GOOD LUCK SWEETY