is this for the wrong reasons
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is this for the wrong reasons
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 1:32pm |
I meet my ex through a friend and right a way we hit it off perfectly. We had similar childhoods and have so many things in common. Every moment we spent together, we fell deeper and deeper in love. Since we both came from religious backgrounds, we had trouble giving up different beliefs that came from marrying each other. This is something that we both feel very strong in, so we decided that since we couldn't agree on what we should just call it off before it caused serious problems. I have hurt ever since. I know that religion is important to both of us but doesn't love conqure all?
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| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:26pm |
It's not about love conquering anything it is about whether you two have compatible values for marriage and how you would deal with the religion issue re kids. Those big cliche abstract statements will fall by the wayside when you deal with the nitty gritty of daily life with someone with different beliefs - that requires possible couples therapy, not fantasizing.
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 3:39pm |
No, unfortunately love only conquers all in the movies. If you have different religious beliefs and values, that is not something to be "overcome." Neither of you should have to compromise your values and beliefs, so IMO you are incompatible in that area and it would make for big problems in a relationship. Compatibility must be present on many different levels for a relationship to succeed. Unfortunately loving one another and having some things in common isn't enough. You need the whole ball of wax, which you didn't have with him. Thus, he is not your Mr. Right afterall. It hurts now, but keep reminding yourself that it just wasn't meant to be. And...no contact at all is the best way to heal and move on. Good luck.
