exclusive but not technically a couple??
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exclusive but not technically a couple??
| Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:56pm |
So I've been dating this really incredible guy for two months and its been amazing so far. However, there is a slight age difference of seven years...he's 29 and I'm 22. Its pretty obvious that at 7 years older than I am (and probably 7 years more of relationship experience) he knows what he's doing. I've only been in one serious relationship prior to this, and I haven't dated around too much. Anyhow, my problem is that with this guy that I'm dating right now, I know that I want a relationship, but I don't know how to bring up relationship status. we have discussed that we are seeing each other exclusively. However, what I want is the "Girlfriend/Boyfriend" term and the security of a relationship, and I'm not sure how to go about bringing that up. I feel like we don't have that right now, and we aren't really exclusive until this distinction is made...am I being too technical? The only reason I don't just blurt it out is because I don't want to risk looking ridiculous. I was wondering if anyone had any clever personal advice of how they went about this and what to say and how to say it. anything would be appreciated...thanks!

ps...thank you so much for responding back so quickly!
The thing about relationships, and good relationships, is that you are allowed to get angry and tell the other person that you are angry. He's giving you mixed signals. If the two of you are "just dating" than that implies that you're also "just dating" others. There's not relationship if you're just dating. So tell him. Tell him, you don't want to just be dating anymore. And if he's not comfortable with that.... well, "just date" other people.
I say that b/c someone who feels you're the right person for him would not hesitate to call you his gf. I think you should think twice about settling for a person who is uncomfortable telling people you are his gf. IMO I'd be looking for someone who's eager and enthusiastic about doing so. Someone who's proud to announce it to everyone and wants to shout from the mountaintops that you're his. If you settle for chopped liver, don't expect to wind up with prime rib. Good luck.