DATING PROBLEMS
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DATING PROBLEMS
| Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:04pm |
I really need some advice!!! I have been dating for the past year since breaking up with my boyfriend...I have been meeting some really great men, but usually after the first or second date I lose interest. I often find myself trying to figure out what i could possibly do to change these men into someone I really want. I know you cant change someone into something you want because you should accept people for who and what they are...but it never fails..after the first few dates my interest level goes to zero. The only men I dont find myself doing this to is guys who are unobtainable...the ones I know i would never have a chance with. What is my problem???? In most peoples opinions these guys i meet are great, yet I always find something wrong with them...even the littlest things from the way they talk, eat, dress...stupid little things. I dont know what to do because i know I am letting some great guys pass me by.

What others think of your dates is irrelevant. Only you know what you're looking for in a partner. Only you can decide for yourself if someone is a right fit for you or not. It's your life; it's your decision.
It's possible you're not emotionally healed from your breakup, and not yet ready to begin another relationship. That could be why you're attracted to unattainable people and why nobody else retains your interest. Unless you're totally healed and back to a state of emotional health and stability, you're not going to be able to begin and develop a successful relationship with anyone. If that's the case, you should take some time to yourself without dating and focus on you. Good luck.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you, except that after having been hurt in the past, you are being smarter and more selective about the type of guy you want to be with. Whatever you do, don't settle because you think you should be with "someone/anyone". Enjoy your life for what it is right now and sooner or later the right kind of guy will come along and all this will merely be just another chapter in your book of life.
LOL - I have to say that....otherwise I'm up the creek without a paddle too!!!!
Take care and all the best....
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