What Is the right thing to do?
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What Is the right thing to do?
| Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:52pm |
Here is my problem. I haven known this guy for about 7 years and for the last 2 years we have been sleeping together, It started out with a casual date to the movies and then he would come over to my place but now its more just about the sex and thats it. We have talked about things progressing into a relationship, but he says he wants to concentrate on school, ( he is away in college) which I totally understand. He knows that I have feelings for him and I have told him that this bothers me and that I don't want to do this Friends with benefits thing anymore. But then he makes me feel guilty and he gets upset saying he likes talking to me and wants to still be my friend. I don't know what to do! I really have strong feelings for him. To make things worse in the last 2 years I haven't met any of his friends or roommates. I have gone to his school before and have only been to his parents' house 1 time. What should I do? I have tried so many times to talk to him about this, but he just doesn't understand.

::He knows that I have feelings for him and I have told him that this bothers me and that I don't want to do this Friends with benefits thing anymore. But then he makes me feel guilty and he gets upset saying he likes talking to me and wants to still be my friend.
So he can talk to you, but not have sex with you....unless you specifically need some time of NO CONTACT to heal.
This is not a good relationship for you and you are going to have to be strong and set boundaries no matter how much he tries to talk you out of how you feel, talk you out of what's right for you.
Carrie