Why does guys lead their girls on?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2003
Why does guys lead their girls on?
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:15pm
I was reading an article...about guys leading their girls on. Just wondering...umm, why wouldn't guys just admit that they are no longer interested in her? I think girls deserve to know the truth instead of wasting her time wondering if you guys are still compatible. I am trying to understand this situation...I would like to hear your feedback about this topic.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:28pm
My opinion is that both men and women do this sometimes. Why? The reasons are numerous and varied. Sometimes a person knows deep down that their partner is not a right fit, yet they stay for fear of being alone, for fear of having to start over, for fear that they may not find someone better, for fear that they'd be making a mistake and maybe, just maybe if they wait a bit longer the other person will change somehow and magically become a right fit. I think fear of confrontation is a big one with men, also. Anyway, I agree with you that if and when you discover your partner isn't right for you, you should move on and let them go so you both can have another shot at finding someone who IS. You never find the right person so long as you're stuck struggling with the wrong one.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 7:12am
I feel that i have lead certain guys on in the past. I do not think men in general lead women on - those who do probably like the sex and companionship and then there are women who actively ignore the clear signs of a man who is not that into them or serious about them becuase they fear being alone. I have never allowed myself to be lead on in any serious relationship and my 22 years experience in dating and with being friends with men has been generally very positive. I do know more than a few women who do not pay attention to signs and then blame the man who has been honest all along, and that is very unfair IMHO.