Is he cheating on me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2004
Is he cheating on me?
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 10:29pm
I've been living with my boyfriend for a year now. Generally he's very caring and considerate to me over the last yeear. However, he left for Hong Kong on Saturday for 7 days and i have'nt heard from him. So i msg him and he's reply was short. this is not right, as he never used to do that. this is the longest he's been away and even on overnight trips he would msg me before. and i called him up one night and he answered and said he was with his colleagues and he can't talk. i ask him if something is wrong between the both of us? and he said did i think that, and i say, based on your noncalling and messaging, i said yes, i feel somthing's not right. He just said he can't talk now. I called up the hotel he supposedly told me was staying, but his name was not registered there.

The Saturday he left for Hong Kong, was valnetines day. He left me a card that said i love you lots. and he was very sweet to me the morning before i went to work. he told me, after a long time, that he love me.

What's going on? My instinct tells me he's with someone there, but i do know for certain that he's as true as he said that he was in Hong Kong for business, that i can see, i saw his email on the seminar confirmation. but the rest of it, still scares me. There is no way i can convince myself that he is so busy that he can't even take a moment to just msg me... what should i do when he gets back. How do question him. Chances are, if what I'm feeling is right, he would hide it anyway, how do i know if he's lying without being interrogative???

Please help me! I've been losing a lot of weight and am very distraught that i just bring myself to eat.

Thank you very much.. need an answer...

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 4:00pm
It sounds to me like you don't trust your bf?

I do think it's strange that he hasn't called you. But do bear in mind that he is at a conference and depending on where you are there is a significant time difference. So that could account for not calling. As for not emailing or messaging, well, I don't know what to tell you.

How is your relationship otherwise? Have you had trust issues before?