Men

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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 9:51am
I have a question, all opinions welcome - please.

Do you think a guy would not date a girl he's crazy about because it's not the right time and he's not ready? And, do men that are afraid of commitment keep their distance from exes that they still like? One more. Would a man keep his ex not too close, but close enough, with intentions of getting back with her when the time is "right?"
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gatorgirl723
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 9:56am
have a question, all opinions welcome - please.

Do you think a guy would not date a girl he's crazy about because it's not the right time and he's not ready?

****OF COURSE!!!! that's a nobrainer...if he doesn't feel like dating you could be elle mcpherson and he won't want to date you


And, do men that are afraid of commitment keep their distance from exes that they still like?

***committment phobic men get involved with women that they know they eventually don't want a long term thing with because its easier to get out of

One more. Would a man keep his ex not too close, but close enough, with intentions of getting back with her when the time is "right?"

***Who knows what he's thinking, could be, or it could be that he likes you as a friend

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: gatorgirl723
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:24am
An important part of being right for someone is that the timing is right for both people. That's pretty logical if you think about it. If someone likes you a lot but feels the timing isn't right, that means you're not right for that person. Whether or not he'll think you will be in the future, nobody can predict. My opinion on "commitment phobia" is that the person doesn't want to commit to *that person.* Again, b/c they do not feel it's right, for whatever reason (the reason why -- ie, timing -- doesn't matter). If and when they DO meet someone who they feel is right for them....the timing will be right and they'll have no problem committing.

Personally I wouldn't waste my time waiting on a guy who told me that he was crazy about me but the timing wasn't right. That's an excuse that would tell me that he's happy keeping me on a back burner (along with any ex's that are ok with being there) while he keeps looking for someone who IS right. If he says he's not ready for a relationship, that means that he hasn't yet found the woman he *wants* a relationship with. If she came along today, he'd BE ready.

Hope this helps.