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Ex's Stuff
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 11:26am |
About 9 months ago I broke up with my ex. He and I had been together for 5 years and lived together for 8 months. For the last 6 months of that fiasco, I was miserable and depressed. My ex was a mentally abusive psycho that wouldn't let me go out, wear certain clothes, have friends, etc and it only got worse when we lived together. I was young when we met (19), so I wasn't sure what I wanted, so I latched on. The fact that he made me feel like I could never find anyone else just kept me there for that long. Finally I left him and I could never be happier. Here's my dilemma:
I met someone else and he is the love of my life. We are planning on getting married. However, there is an issue. Over the 5 years with my ex, I accumulated some jewelry as gifts. I don't wear it, it just sits in my jewelry box. Do I get rid of it, by selling it? Because I am not giving it back to the ex. The jewelry has no meaning, but there is a bracelet that I loved that I hate to get rid of. Is the best thing to do getting rid of it? My new boyfriend is not very happy about the fact that I still have it, but he doesn't say anything about it. I just know it bothers him. Please someone make me feel better about selling the jewelry.
I met someone else and he is the love of my life. We are planning on getting married. However, there is an issue. Over the 5 years with my ex, I accumulated some jewelry as gifts. I don't wear it, it just sits in my jewelry box. Do I get rid of it, by selling it? Because I am not giving it back to the ex. The jewelry has no meaning, but there is a bracelet that I loved that I hate to get rid of. Is the best thing to do getting rid of it? My new boyfriend is not very happy about the fact that I still have it, but he doesn't say anything about it. I just know it bothers him. Please someone make me feel better about selling the jewelry.

It's funny that I see this post on here I had the same problem myself and almost started a discussion a while back! Luckily, I resolved my issue. I decided to give all of my expensive jewels to my mom, since she had been by far the most supportive person when I was going through my break-up. I also spoke to another woman who had jewelry from an ex and she divvied it up between all of her girlfriends when she got married. Another suggestion is to make something good come as a result of that bad situation: sell it and give the proceeds to a charity. I wouldn't feel too guilty about selling it in general anyway-- think of those baubles as your purple heart for going through such a horrible relationship!