What happened????

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Registered: 07-17-2003
What happened????
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 2:44pm
Hi I am a new to this board. I am a 27 year old single female. I will try and make my story short. I was at a bar last weekend and a guy came up to me and said he knew me. I thought it was a pick up line at first, but then discovered he dj-ed a family party I was at last summer. He remembered me even though we didn't meet. He knew I left the party early and apparently he talked to my dad because my dad when to school with his dad. Anyways he kept coming up to me and eventually we danced and he asked for my number. I gave it to him and then for some reason he called my phone right there at the bar. He was there with a bunch of people he worked with. Some girls came up to him and he kept saying to me don't worry I work with them. His friends were coming up to me saying he is a good guy. He told me liked me and thought I was a very beautiful girl. He asked if I had a date for Valentine's Day and I said yes cause I did. He asked who the guy was and I said someone I just met and offered to cancel...he said no don't that. Then he asked me to meet for coffee on Sunday and I explained I couldn't cause I had plans. We continued to dance and he seemed really into me. He was not drinking at all either. At the end of the night he said he would give me a call and hugged me and kissed me on the cheek.

Sorry this is so LONG!! Sat I sent him a text message just saying "happy Valentines' day" because I wanted him to know I was interested. He wrote back and said "thanks you too", but has not called. Today is Thursday and I met him last Friday. I thought for sure he would of called by now because he seemed so interested. I am confused. He kept saying how hhe knew my dad and couldn't believe he ran into me again. I have decided to try calling him once tonight, because a lot of people are saying he may have not called because he thought I was interested because I said I had a date on Sat and turned him down for Sunday. What do you guys think? THanks!!!! Sassy chica
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:01pm

I think the fact that you offered to *cancel* your V-Day date (can't believe you said that!!!) clearly showed him just how interested you were.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:09pm
I think that it is a horrible idea to offer to cancel a date for a guy you just met, Vday or otherwise. It sends a few messages - one, that you really aren't into the guy who you had the original plans with, two, that you and your plans are not important and you are willing to drop them at the last minute at the suggestion of a total stranger.

If you are looking for a relationship, treat yourself and your time with respect, and don't date anyone who doesn't do the same.



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Registered: 07-17-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:17pm
The guy that I had the date with was no big deal. I had never met him before, it was a blind date. The guy I met Friday asked me to meet him on Sunday for coffee and I declined cause I had plans. So I don't drop plans in a drop of a hat for a guy.

sassychica
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:38pm
I think someone that pursuant that night with no follow up...was trying to get laid.

Erin

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:49pm
Blind date or not, the person you offered to cancel on is a human being with feelings! Sheesh. And on Valentine's Day no less. If I were the bar guy I'd think you were a bit heartless for saying that. I think you have given him more than enough signals that you are interested. I'd stop pursuing him. If he is interested he'll call you. If he doesn't call then let it go. Sometimes a person does things on the spur of the moment but thinks better of it later on and changes their mind. It happens.
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 3:55pm
I know. Offering to cancel your Valentine's Day date not only showed you were interested but also too interested and also not very sensitive to the other guy's feelings. It also made you look pretty desperate.

Also you text messaged him wishing him a happy Valentine's Day. You just met this guy.

I think the fact that you probably showed him too much interest made him probably realize that he's just not that interested after all. Hmmm....Interesting.