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BROKEN HEART
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 8:17pm |
My ex-fiance called off our wedding 5 months before its date, & I can't seem to get over the pain.(He lost all the deposits, paid me back +++, paid my cellphone bill for the following year and gave me back my ring) It's been almost two years now and HE STILL KEEPS IN TOUCH & I don't understand why. I still don't understand whats going on in a guys mind! You love her but you can't commit to her????? We dated for 6 years before getting engaged. He's 6years younger than me (I was 30 and he was 24) so thats the only excuse I can make up for him. We were never apart. It was a shock to everyone including his family. I need advise. I'm still in love with him & would marry him in a heatbeat. He's got a girlfriend of 1 year now but whenever he talks about her to me or our mutual friends he's very negative towards her. I feel like he's stringing me along but I STILL CAN'T walk away. The only thing we have between us now is a stupid box of his stuff that I have in storage. Thats his reason for calling me & our conversation ALWAYS lasts 1 hour or more. We talk like nothing has happened. Once that box is gone there isn't a reason for a call.
I miss him so much that it hurts...Should I still have hope that someday we will get back together? I don't know many people who still keep in touch with their exs or worst ex-fiances..
I miss him so much that it hurts...Should I still have hope that someday we will get back together? I don't know many people who still keep in touch with their exs or worst ex-fiances..

The remedy to this situation is totally in your control, if you have the desire to stop the painful limbo.
THANK YOU FOR RESPONDING SO QUICKLY. I'VE KNOWN WHAT TO DO FROM THE BEGINING BUT WAS TOO AFRIAD TO DO ANYTHING, ESPECIALLY SINCE HE STILL CALLS. I STILL HAD HOPE THAT THINGS WOULD WORK OUT. I REALLY DO NEED TO MOVE ON. I'M JUST TIRED OF EVERYTHING THAT HES PUT ME THROUGH..
THANX AGAIN ELENA
You're welcome.
Thanx Elena
something major did happen. you can't pretend that it didn't and go on like it was okay. you should never think so little of yourself. let alone let somebody else make you feel that way. it's not worth it. i'm going through a break up myself right now and this is from a guy, 24 that also spoke of marriage and kids in great detail for the last 7months and broke up with me out of no where. saying that he can't handle a relationship in his life right now. i know it's not the same as yours but, i feel you are selling yourself short. you need a clean break from this. you can't talk to this guy as if nothing has happend and everything is okay. it's not and you know it.
maybe him breaking it off is a blessing in disguise for you. do you really want somebody that can't be willing to be there for you. he is young but, so what you know. don't let that be the excuse. you should try and not talk to him. the more you pull away and he knows you are not there the more he will realize what he's missing and maybe you might realize you really don't want him. i mean it's been two years girl and he's seeing somebody else. you need to take care of you. i'm sure you're a great girl and deserve so much better sweatheart. best of luck to you! i need it too, i feel your pain.
schiele314
Edited 2/20/2004 4:13:25 AM ET by schiele314
Hi
I'm so sorry for your pain but what you need most here is closure.