how do i get over my ex

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Registered: 02-19-2004
how do i get over my ex
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 8:51pm
My ex left me for a 16 year old and did not tell me about her but got my friend to tell me and then all he could tell me was that he was sorry and that he knew he hurt me. he is 23 and i am 21 we been together for 9 and a half years on and off and now he is gone. I want to know what can i do to get over him I am having a hard time and all i do is cry and my mind has him on it 24/7 and i just cant get him off.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:34pm

First of all, occupy your time with busy things. Begin a project, learn to do something new, go somewhere different... don't sit at home doing nothing but thinking... remember, it only hurts when you think about it.


Second, realize that you deserve better. any 23 year old who would take off with a 16 year old, in my opinion, needs to have his head examined... Consider that he isn't using very wise or logical wisdom... move on, find what you want and what you deserve and be happy. Remember, there are millions of people in the world and half of them are men!


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 12:06pm
Hey Hon *HUGS*





First of all your not going to get over your ex in one day all you can do is know that you can do better and someday you will realize that he wasn't the one for you in the first place I know that seems so far away now but continue to remind yourself of what a great person you are and its his lost and your gain to someone else that will truly love you for you!!!

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 1:08pm
First off, The only thing that will get you over this guy is time...time....and more time. No contact or communication. This only makes it worse and harder to get over and only serves to delay the healing process.

And secondly, You should be THANKING this guy for leaving you for a 16 year old. Let me explain. ANY 23 year old guy who gives up a relationship with someone in his same stage of life for a 16 year old CHILD has something sorely, disturbingly wrong with him...not to mention the fact that its illegal. You would NOT WANT a man ...if you can call him that....who would make a choice like this in your life to begin with. He obviously has more issues than you could ever hope to manage/deal with in a relationship with him. Move on knowing that you deserve much much better....and that HE is getting exactly what he deserves.

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 1:28pm
Keep busy.....and take pleasure in the fact he'll probably be in jail for statutory rape soon anyway.
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Registered: 01-14-2004
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 2:35pm
Ouch hun.. I'm sorry to hear that! Hang out with your friends alot.. but take time to be alone when you need to as well. Take up a new hobby, and just keep busy! If this guy dumped you for a 16 year old... then I can tell you right now he's not the right one for you and he ain't worth it. You can do so much better trust me... I promise the hurt will go away.. when you're hurting you don't think you can get over the pain but the sun will shine again.. and usually, when you LEAST expect it.. the right one will come along and make this guy seem like a jerk!
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 10:30pm
I'd have to say one of the worst kind of breaks ups are being left for, for someone else. That is what happened to me to. I know what you're feeling, that you weren't good enough, and that he sees something is someone else he didn't see in you, but you wish you would have just been that way and made things right....well IT'S NOT YOU! One of the most helpful things to know and remember is that it's not your fault! He screwed up and he was the one that was not good for you. You deserve better and he doesn't deserve you. Keep telling yourself all of this and whenever you think of him..say these things to yourself, always think of a positive, this was the best thing that i did for myself, during my most painful heartbreak ever...and if you stick with it and get out there and be with positive people, I guarantee you will get through this.