boyfriend has picture of ex still out!!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
boyfriend has picture of ex still out!!
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 10:27pm
I am dating a man that has been divorced for over 2 years. I am divorced myself (and have a child). For some reason (which I am afraid to ask him) he has a wedding picture of himself and his ex wife on their wedding day right on top of his tv! He has kids and I could understand if the picture was out for them, he could even put it in their room, but it isn't! Is he not over her or something? Please help!
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Registered: 07-02-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 2:52pm
Wow, two years and she is still hanging around in a frame?? HHmmnnn, I can't tell you why your boyfriend still has that wedding picture out, but I can agree with you that I'd be hurt. He's not wrong to have it out, but it would lead me to believe that he isn't 100% ready to put the past behind him.

Personally, I think that it is ignorant to you (or any girlfriend that he has had or will have) to have it out on display. If he is not ready to let go, he should keep it out of your site. It's common courtesy. Sometimes guys just don't think about that stuff though.

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Fri, 02-20-2004 - 5:52pm

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 6:20pm
Do me a favor. ASK him about it. Please....don't let it sit inside you withou talking about it. Please talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel, etc.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 8:59pm
How do you know the photo isn't out for the sake of the kids (how old are they)? I think you're right in wondering if this is a sign of emotional unavailability. Two years is a long time, and even kids need to face the fact that their parents aren't together any more. I would definitely ask him about it. But you shouldn't ask him to put it away b/c it's his business, his past. If he can't put it away on his own, knowing it's the best thing to do, then IMO you should re-evaluate pursuing a relationship with him. Where is his heart and head at? Actions speak louder than words.