Is he a playa?

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Registered: 02-21-2004
Is he a playa?
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Sat, 02-21-2004 - 4:16pm
Ok,i've been in a relationship for almost four years now and about 4-5 months ago another man came into my life. He is actually a friend of my bf and his father. NEways,one day my bf and I were fighting and he "dumped" me,and the other guy(cris) found out and called me, saying stuff like "i'll be there for ya" and "if he's just gonna throw u aside like that,i wanna be there to pick you right up"Anyways,after awhile i started to like him back.although i am not sure if he really does like me,or if he just likes my pot(Marijuana). I mean I had a week off from school and my bf didn't,so I invited cris over and he declined saying he would feel bad because he is good friends with the family,and that he wants me all to himself and doesn't want to share me. I'm just not sure he really likes me, I mean I've seen him with my bf's step-mother who is OLD and he acts all flirty with her. And when i tell him i'm all outta pot he was all snapping his eyes at me for a bit,so i just laughed in face everytime,then after awhile he's like well i still like u. I decided to call him and say u should really quit pretending to like me,he really didn't have much to say about that. He was all wondering why i thought that so i told him I feel he is pretending to like me for my Bud(pot,maryjane),then his response was "ok,u have me all figured out Ms.Detective" then silence for a second,then he said "no i wouldn't do that for your bud,i can get it all from my roommate,he has lots. I really do like you and I think u r just trying to find reasons not to like me" So what do ya think ladies? Playa??? Hope to hear responses soon,i'm confused :( because he is sooo flirty. I mean when he flirts with the old lady he all tickles her and says "i wanna make u wiggle" and blows on her ear gently and gives her that look. When he flirts with me he gives me that look,he's even kissed me a few times saying I'm gorgeous and that he is gonna take me from my man real soon,and that he loves hugging and kissing me. But are these all lines just to get me to smoke all my pot with him?? He did do and say this after i told him i didn't have any pot left,but maybe he wants me to keep believing he likes me for the next time i do have pot? Advice greatly appreciated.


Edited 2/22/2004 3:30:03 PM ET by belle7480
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: belle7480
Sat, 02-21-2004 - 11:02pm
I think before you consider dating anyone you should get help - now!! - for your drug problem/dealing and figure out why you hate yourself so much that you'd smoke that much pot and share it/sell it to others and risk ruining your health and your chances at any decent job (that is when you get arrested) as well as contributing to others having drug problems. Why would you want to date someone who also has a drug problem, anyway and who would say to a woman that he can "take her" from a man - aren't you worth being with someone who knows how to treat a woman like an equal human being as opposed to an object?? Please get some help.
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Registered: 02-11-2004
In reply to: belle7480
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 8:38pm
I think he just wants your pot. If he really liked you, he would not flirt the way he does. You need to dump him, and move on. When he's ready to treat you like you deserve to be treated ,then hook up with him. Until then, screw him. Oh, by the way I think he is a player. Good Luck
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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: belle7480
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 1:24pm
Well, if he sounds like a player, acts like a player, and only seems to be using you, then it's safe to assume that he *is* a player.
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In reply to: belle7480
Mon, 02-23-2004 - 2:32pm
Hey Belle

I would agree with everyone that he sounds like a straight up player and you should prolly stay clear!!!! He seems to be using you and i wouldnt doubt it if he was using other girls as well.